Becoming, Not Arriving

If there’s one truth I keep returning to, it’s this: I am becoming. I haven’t arrived. And I may never fully "arrive" in the way I once imagined.

We often grow up believing that life will eventually reach a clean, satisfying conclusion—that we’ll finally land the dream job, earn the perfect title, find unwavering clarity, or unlock the ideal version of ourselves. But that expectation is a myth. A beautiful, exhausting myth that can keep us chasing versions of success that were never meant to fit us in the first place.

For a long time, I saw arriving as a destination—like once I became a licensed architect, then I’d feel like I had made it. In theory, that was a great idea. But I slowly realized that it isn’t really what I wanted at all. It meant that I would stay on a path that no longer bought me joy, simply because I had already invested years of study and labor into it. I was holding on to an identity that no longer felt like mine, afraid to let go because of how others might perceive the shift. On top of that, I was holding on to the fact that all my peers had a master’s degree in Architecture and I didn’t have a master’s degree at all.

But here’s what I’m learning: growth is not a series of arrival points—it’s a continuous unfolding. Growth is not linear whatsoever.

Each season of my life has revealed something I didn’t know before. Each disappointment has carved out space for redirection. Each detour has taught me to look deeper and listen closer. The pain of losing my job, the emotional exhaustion of working in an industry that didn’t suit me, the vulnerability of starting over in a new field—none of it was wasted. It was all part of my becoming. And I am still learning. I am learning to appreciate the process and discover what I want my future to look like.

Embracing the Messy Middle

Becoming means making peace with the in-between. The not-yet. The foggy parts of your journey where you’re unsure of what’s next. It means asking harder questions: What do I really want to create? What stories do I want to tell? What kind of work feels meaningful to me? Why do I want to create? Where do I want to go and why? What are the steps to get there and how do I embrace the journey more?

Right now, I’m still answering those questions in real time. I’m learning to design not only visuals, but also a life that feels aligned with who I am. Some days that looks like creating mood boards and social media content for clients. Other days, it means sitting in silence, letting inspiration catch up to me, and realizing I don’t need to be productive to prove my worth.

I don’t want to curate a version of myself that looks polished and perfect. I want to document the process of becoming—raw, honest, authentic—and still deeply worthwhile.

Redefining Arrival

What if arriving isn’t a fixed destination, but a moment of presence?

Maybe arriving is sitting with yourself and feeling proud of how far you’ve come—even if you’re not “there” yet. Maybe it's noticing how your voice has grown stronger, how your vision has sharpened, how your values have clarified. Maybe it's finding joy in your curiosity, and satisfaction in your persistence.

We’re all unfinished masterpieces—layers of experience, inspiration, fear, and faith. Just like the great works of art that take years to develop, our creative lives require patience and room to evolve. Michelangelo famously said, “I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.” Becoming is that carving. We are all masterpieces being carved and set free by our Creator.

A Gentle Reminder for the Journey

If you’re reading this and feel like you're still figuring things out, I hope you know that’s okay. The pressure to arrive can be overwhelming—especially in a world that celebrates certainty, linear progress and monetary advancements. But your worth isn’t tied to how clear your next move is or how impressive your accomplishments appear.

You are allowed to change your mind. You are allowed to grow slowly. You are allowed to rebuild, reroute, restart. There is no expiration date on becoming who you’re meant to be. So don’t be discouraged by other people or society’s pressures.

This blog is a space for that process—for reimagining what success looks like, for sharing stories of growth and grit, and for reminding ourselves that it’s never too late to choose differently. I am a living testimony to reimagining the process of life.

So no, I haven’t arrived yet. But I am becoming—on purpose, with grace, and in good company.

And that, to me, is more than enough. Because I am more than enough.